Bend

This writing is Certified Human

“Do not seek for events to happen as you wish but wish for events to happen as they do happen and your life will go smoothly.” — Epictetus

The Obstacle

No two days are the same
Each day asks something of us
Always more to do
Never enough time.

Some days require more
Some days we dedicate to others
Set our desires aside.

We can be rigid
Wanting our routine
This brings anxiety
Frustration
Over what is not being done.

Our day
Our routine
The things we want
What we need to get done.

It is hard to be happy
When focused on what we are not doing
Or when we would rather be somewhere else.

It is hard to go with the flow
Without bending.

The Gift and Opportunity

Some days are about others
About anything other than us.

We can choose to let go
Give
Be present
Put everything on hold for a time
For what matters.

We can choose to be where we are
With who we are with
Enjoy the moment.

Others know
They sense our focus
Attention and energy
When it’s with them.

Life is smooth
When we bend.

The Why

Because yesterday was Mother’s Day
It was not about me
None of it.

Because this post was not written at night
As it normally would
It was more important to be where I was
That used to cause me frustration and anxiety
That used to pull me away physically and mentally.

Because the post is being written now
Breaking my normal morning routine
That’s ok.

Because I was able to recognize and choose
Before the moment came
In the moment
Who I wanted to be.

Because I was able
To not have or spread discontent and anxiety
To be present and happy.
I was able to choose and lead myself.

The Practice of Self-Mastery

• Anticipate the need to control
• Recalibrate to who you want to be
• Intentionally direct your time, focus, attention and energy
• Be where you are with who you are with

CHEAT CODE: ANTICIPATE → BEND → RECALIBRATE → DIRECT → BE