Stress The Guess

This writing is Certified Human

“We suffer more often in imagination than in reality” — Seneca

The Obstacle

We guess

How things are going to go

The outcome

Intentions

Motives.

These presumptions lead with energy we do not intend.

We enter with assumptions that make us frustrated

Angry

Defensive

Blaming

Guilty

Resentful.

It is difficult to get to the truth

Resolve conflict

Perform well

Or reach a positive outcome

With a negative posture.

The Gift and Opportunity

We know people often get us wrong

They misinterpret what we are saying

Our actions

Thinking

Attitude

Intentions

Yet we do the same.

We can be on the lookout 

Before we engage

Understand that our assumptions
May not be correct

And discard them

Start from a position of nothing

Seek to understand

Explore before judging.

From here we can find truth

Understanding

Resolution.

The Practice of Self-Mastery

• Notice the story you are telling yourself

• Discard assumptions and guesses

• Seek to understand before judging

• Explore before deciding

CHEAT CODE: NOTICE → DISCARD THE STORY → UNDERSTAND → EXPLORE → RESOLVE

The Why

There are times where the start of something is a struggle and people do not show up like we thought they would.

I make assumptions about why people do what they door why they do not show up when they are supposed to.

When I am able to recognize that thought and release it, I can understand and explore the real why.

It usually turns out that the story I am telling myself does not match the story of reality

Or their thoughts and intentions.

I am able to have better conversations, not rooted in frustration or hostility.